'Love Of My Life' by Adrenaline-Fuelled, Sleep-Deprived, Caffeinated Pictures

I wrote this film following an article published in the Korea Herald in 2017 which was then picked up internationally including in the UK, about the high rates of domestic violence in South Korea. The Korea Herald reported that 80% of men admitted abusing their girlfriends.

 

Asia overall, like much of the world, has a problem with misogyny and spousal abuse but this report was conducted by the Korean Institute of Criminology and I was shocked that so many people were happy to admit to it and didn't see their behaviour as abuse. I wanted to highlight this issue.

The following is an extract from the Korea Herald article which is here http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20170817000805

 

About 8 in 10 Korean men said they had used violence against romantic partners, a study showed Thursday.

According to a study conducted by the Korean Institute of Criminology, 1,593 of 2,000 Korean men, or 79.7 percent, said they had abused a girlfriend while they were dating.


About 71 percent of those who admitted to a history of dating abuse said they had control over their girlfriends’ personal activities, such as restricting them from meeting friends or keeping them isolated from others, including family members.

 

Hong Young-oh, the researcher from the KIC who led the study, said the high number of those who had restricted their partners’ movements stems from the deep-rooted patriarchal attitude of Korean men.
“The high number of such actions show that the abusers themselves were not aware of or did not recognize their actions as dating abuse,” said Hong.

 

“But victims who had their activities restricted by their boyfriends saw it as serious enough to say that they wanted to break up.”

 

The study also showed that the acceptability of violence, childhood experience of domestic violence and emotional instability were attributed to various types of violent actions by abusers while dating.

 

Karelia Scott-Daniels

 

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  • #1

    Michael van Koetsveld (Saturday, 01 June 2019 13:06)

    Tells a powerful story without the need for translation, and it's so in keeping with the overall Impact story whilst being totally complete in its own right. Great job!

  • #2

    Cami Beaudry (Sunday, 02 June 2019 08:09)

    This is so well done, the camera angles and the sparse dialogue is especially powerful. Well done!

  • #3

    GRUMMAN14 MLJ (Sunday, 02 June 2019 08:18)

    Very very emotional and moving. Well played on getting across a very serious problem that no one (man or woman) should suffer. Good job �

  • #4

    Alison Hogge (Sunday, 02 June 2019 17:04)

    This is a lovely piece. My only comment relates to the background noise coming in late at the start.

  • #5

    Monique Amado (Monday, 03 June 2019 01:05)

    Heartbreakingly moving. SO important to tell stories of women who feel trapped in abusive situations to give them a voice. I love the dog being an important part of the story too and the one comfort she has in the midst of her suffering. Brave storytelling. Well done!

  • #6

    Rick (Sunday, 09 June 2019 14:59)

    Firstly, congratulations on completing your first short film, that’s a big deal.

    What follows is intended as constructive feedback. Feel free to ignore any and all as you see fit, but please don’t take any of it personally.

    As I see it, there are two big issues with this short:

    A) It’s unclear if the disjointed nature of the framing and editing are deliberate or accidental
    B) It currently has zero to do with Impact 50.

    The good news is that both of these are easily fixed with a little re-editing and a good sound mix.

    In terms of bringing it in line with Impact 50, I’d be interested to see what your intentions were. Is he aware of the impending end, and that’s his motive-du-jour for drinking and abusing her? Is she aware of the impending end, and that’s why she’s finally decided to leave?

    It might be interesting to create a cityscape background track that can highlight a) their awareness, and also b) that the disjoints are deliberate. If each cut is accompanied by different background noise it will make it clear there’s an ellipsis, as well as covering the dodgy hiss from the on-set audio. You can then use the city as a new character almost to highlight who knows what and to build tension. Sirens, screams, horns, laughter, a car crash, the world is coming to an end, and the people outside are building to a frenzy, which builds tension inside the flat too. You can use a radio, TV or a Godzilla-warning tannoy in the street to hammer home who knows what.

    Finally, the stat you gave about the level of spousal abuse in SK is shocking. It would be good to work this in somewhere. Maybe have a card in at the front. It can be in beautiful Korean symbols (hangul?) with a translation below, and could also help to break up your opening few shots a little. You could even have a darkly cynical card at the end saying that the problem of spousal abuse in SK has finally been solved, by the end of the world.

    Two other small changes I would suggest:
    i) Have her check out her bruises before he comes home. It builds tension and makes the story clearer sooner.
    ii) Try using foley again to make the plastic bottle sound like a glass one. Throwing an empty plastic bottle at someone is underwhelming as abuse goes.

    Hope this is helpful.

  • #7

    Karen Lyu (Saturday, 15 June 2019 12:43)

    Congratulations!! I agree with Rick! Wish you all the best!